Is the trauma of your past the defining moment of your life?
If you’ve experienced a horrific trauma in your life – as a child or an adult – how much ‘weight’ you give it to determine who you are today can make the difference between your life, or your early death.
Is ‘Woundology’ your Default Setting?
First, a credit: the term ‘woundology’ comes from the brilliant Medical Intuitive, mystic and best-selling author, Caroline Myss. In her 1998 book, Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can she introduces the concept of Woundology, after a series of encounters in the world of alternative healing.
In a nutshell, woundology is a belief that your historic suffering is the essential, defining moment of your life. And because of this, what you can and can’t do now, and what others should or should not say or do around you, is writ in stone.
Far-Fetched or Unfortunate Fact?
If this sounds ridiculously far-fetched to you, I invite you to think again. When was the last time you said or felt or encountered someone who believed certain dreams or possibilities (like umm … happiness) are pretty-much off-limits to them, due to early childhood trauma, like incest or abuse or abandonment?
Or, how many people do you know whom you have to tip-toe around certain subjects with, so as not to ‘re-traumatize’ them?
Or, how many people need to tip-toe around you with certain subjexts because of your ‘wound’?
The Sucking Chest Wound
Now, if you’re hackles are a bit up after reading the above, you’ve probably got some Woundology going on. So I want to invite you to consider this …
By nursing your early traumas like a sucking chest wound, you’re opening the door to Dis-Ease … BIG TIME.
Let Go … and Let God
If you want to Be, to Do and to Have a life of inner peace and joy and health, no matter your past, and no matter what others do or say today, then there’s only one thing to do … Let go of this false Badge of Courage. Let Go of any beliefs that your ‘pain’ defines you. And let go of requiring anyone or anything to be a certain way in order for you to ‘cope’.
But it Hurts!
Of course it did … and of course, you have to process trauma. But process-in-order-to-release-and-heal is NOT the same as sporting a banner that says “I Am an [insert your wound here] Survivor!”
Why? Because that banner is an ego trip. It’s a prop. It’s a way to limit your own experience and control the behavior of others around you.
You see, sometimes we can get ‘secondary gains’ from suffering. The ego LOVES this! “Oh, she’s such a lovely person, too bad she suffers so!” Or: “That poor thing, she does so much for so little.”
This kind of pity from others is Ego fodder. It doesn’t serve anyone and it sure doesn’t allow your own Healing & Wholeness!!
So if you’ve encounter some woundology along your life path, or if a past wound is in any way defining who you are today. You’ve got a single recourse … Drop it! ASAP.
Am I full of Bologna?
Does this sound like a load of crap to you? Do you think I’m exaggerating something minor or off on the wrong tangent? Or, does something about ‘woundology’ seem familiar to you? Let me know your insights, thoughts or ‘Aha!’s in the comments below.